Negative Blogging

Alright, this is mainly just a little rant on my part but I had to get it out. I had been reading a website devoted to Moms (I won’t mention names) pretty regularly but I just can’t anymore. All of their articles just seem to want to create controversy & start problems. It wasn’t so bad at first but it’s gone really downhill. And some of the articles are just completely ridiculous. For example, here are some of the headlines from the “Parenting” section:

MY KID IS AN A**HOLE. (Seriously, that was the title of an article on there.)
STAY AT HOME MOMS ARE JUST LAZY!
YOUR CHILD IS JUST A PAIN IN THE A**.
BAD NAME = BAD KID.
WHY HAVE KIDS ANYWAY?

I’m not saying that my children don’t irritate me or that I don’t have my own parenting issues but seriously, come on. Practically every article talked about how horrible the author’s children were. It seems like all they want to do is provide shock value to get people to read their articles or emphasize all the negative aspects of parenting. They get people to debate both view points but they do it so violently and angrily that they often just come off sounding narrow-minded and well, violent! I write about my struggles with my children on this blog but I also write about the good things they do and things I enjoy about them. The “Marriage” section of the website is even worse:

MARRIED SEX = BORING SEX!
WHAT MOMS THINK ABOUT DURING SEX!
OUR SEXLESS MARRIAGE!
WHAT TO DO WHEN HE CHATS UP THE “EX”
I‘M GLAD I WAS A SLUT (Seriously?!)

Those articles went on and on about how married women/moms only think about other things than sex when they’re having sex or how boring their sex life is. Or how OMG, their husband wants to have sex before bed! OH DEAR! I don’t mean to be overdramatic, it just seems ridiculous. I guess it bugs me because it seems like they’re just assuming every single mom has a horrible sex life, doesn’t like having sex, can’t stand to be with her husband, etc. I have as yet to see on there ONE article about a Mom with a good, regular sex life or one who actually enjoys being intimate with her husband. Of course, we all have issues but I don’t think that we all hate every single thing about our husbands or can’t stand to be around them. Obviously, or we wouldn’t be married!
On the flip side of that, I see so many articles on there about infidelity, cheating and how to keep your man attracted to you, i.e. dressing like a hooker. Ok, if you’re in a “sexless marriage” (according to the headlines) and can’t even stand to be around him…why on Earth are you so psychotic about keeping him attracted to you and making sure he’s not cheating on you?! (As a side note, there are plenty of things you can do OTHER than dressing like a hooker to keep him attracted to you.)

I guess I’m just surprised by how much negativity there is online. I guess maybe that was also a reason that made me take a hiatus from blogging. I know we all need to a place to vent and I’m not saying that we shouldn’t discuss our problems with friends or people who can sympathize but I think there’s a time and place for that – and I think we need to try and remember the GOOD things about our husbands, children and life too. Too often we’re quick to focus on the negative and all the problems we have in our lives and the good things just get ignored or pushed off onto the back burners. Some people blog just to get attention or followers, stuff like that – and if that’s what they want, more power to them I guess. I don’t understand it. I like seeing that people read what I write but it’s not the main reason I write. I like trying to help people, writing about things that interest me and getting all the thoughts out of my brain to make room for other ones.
I no longer read the above mentioned website and have really pretty much made a habit of only reading websites & blogs that have a good balance. I can’t stand to read sites that are just full of blatant negativity and controversy. I’m not saying you all have to do that, that’s just something I myself do. I’d love to hear your thoughts.